Be joyful in the face of unbearable sadness ----
As we look to celebrate some really joyous occasions at Chabad of Naples, how ironic it is to regard them from a bitter and sweet stance: but isn't that realistically what we Jews sometimes have had to face in our lives? With heavy hearts, we often have faced joyous occasions.
A tragedy of epic proportion took place late Tuesday night, when a young mother of eight, at the age of 37, passed away suddenly, leaving her family, her community in Alpharetta, GA and the Chabad world reeling in shock.
Read about the story at this link.
Rashi Minkowicz and her husband Hirshy were warm, respected and hospitable role models in the community and for me personally, when as a rabbinical student I stayed in their home for one weekend one summer. We are at a loss for words -- there is just no explanation for such a tragedy. We are praying for her family.
About six months ago, Mrs. Rashi Minkowicz’s aunt Mrs. Shaindy Lieberman of blessed memory, a kind, sweet and precious Neshamah and Chabad Rebbitzin to Fort Lauderdale, FL, passed away at the age of 59. It happened a few days before the anniversary of the passing of Rashi’s grandmother and namesake, Mrs. Rashi Gansbourg, who also passed away at the young age of 37.
Rashi wrote the e-mail below to her siblings and cousins. The title of the email was “How to Stop Crying.” Rashi’s husband Hirshy requested that, in keeping with Rashi’s style of ‘saying it as it is,’ we present the e-mail to our readers unedited and in full.
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This Friday is bubby Rashis Yahrtzeit and I keep thinking today of the story of how Zaidy Gansbourg was dancing on simchas Torah with such intense joy just a few days after bubby Rashi died. I keep asking myself what am I taking from today’s tragedy and the Yahrtzeit of bubby Bubbu Rashi… As my bitter tears fall into my mixing bowl I can’t help but wonder if Zaidy Gansbourg would be proud of my falling apart. Would he be looking down and seeing that we are truly living his message or are we falling apart which is the easy way out.
Obviously we know what we need to do. Somehow we need to transform the energy of our crying into joy because joy is as productive as sadness is destructive . Both require energy… To be joyful in face of unbearable sadness is the hardest challenge of all. But Zaidy did it as a true Chassid and an entirely godly man. We need to take his lead and triumph over our natural reactions to this crazy world of pain and darkness. If G-d could be crazy so can we. Crazy enough to accept His challenge and forge ahead.
Just rambling but I need to keep saying this so I don’t completely destruct. May Zaidy Gansbourg and Bubby Rashi and Shaya Gansbourg look down at their family and offspring and know that while they are gone we continue to keep their spirit alive by smiling while we are weeping and by continuing to climb the arduous mountains that are put in our way.
And may the Neshoma of Shaina Chaya bas Rochel Leah be begging Hashem along with all the other special Neshomos that were taken way too soon that Moshiach come NOW!!!
Wishing u all a good yomtov!
Rashi Minkowicz
ChabadNF
This is what Purim is and I am facing Shabbat and Purim with both sides of my heart exposed -- both joy and sadness -- and I will try somehow to respond with light.
Purim, which begins Saturday night is a rich story with many valuable themes. We celebrate the miracle of the survival of the Jews. We recognize that as much as things looked bleak for the Jews, in an instant, things switched from darkness, to light. "V'nahapochu" - "And it was turned/flipped over" is the term the Megillah uses. Join me in bringing light with the Shabbat candles, and celebrating the holiday of Purim which is the triumph of light over darkness good over evil by hearing the Megillah and coming to the celebration on Sunday.
I can't make any sense out of this tragedy. I can't fathom being happy when something so sad and dark has happened, but it's still Purim. Purim reminds us that when all seems lost, "V'nahpochu"! It can all be turned around and flipped over to goodness in an instant.
And so, I am going to challenge myself and you as well, to find the inner strength and march forward and be happy.
As our fellow Israelis take to the streets to celebrate Purim, we pray for their safety from the recent missile offensive, may G-d protect them and us.
Rabbi Fishel Zaklos